In transition. 3 things to consider doing.
If you want to:
Leave an old life and start a new one, or
Going through a transition is lonely and hard.
When I was going through my transition in my early 40s, in my case a work transition,
I had no one to talk to.
My husband didn’t understand what I was going through.
My working friends couldn’t give me advice.
My friends who didn’t work outside the home, couldn’t help either.
I was alone.
I had huge anxiety.
I couldn’t sleep at night without a glass or 2 of wine.
Then I would wake up at 4am and couldn’t go back to sleep.
I didn’t know which path to take:
- Just stay home and raise my 3 kids or figure out a different career.
- I didn’t want to work for someone else anymore but I was scared to start my own firm.
Why does it have to be so hard?
Accidently, I started to approach this transition similar to when I research #stocks or any #investment:
1. Research: I started to read books outside of work, previously I had only read research reports on stocks and the economy. To name a few Grit by Angela Duckworth and Originals by Adam Grant.
To learn new things, it takes a lot of hard work to navigate a transition.
2. Talk to successful people: I reached out to close friends who worked outside my industry like Eryn Brown and women who graduated around 10 to 20 years before me from #harvardbusinessschool to learn their stories about work and life.
I learned it's important to connect, relate and learn from other peoples’ stories.
3. Figure out THE why. I thought back to a childhood experience that taught me to be independent and pretty financially savvy as a teenager. I helped my single mom balance her checkbook and write out her monthly checks so our phone didn’t get turned off because she forgot to pay the bills.
I learned it's important to discover why you are taking this path. I transitioned to become a financial advisor.
My niche is to help folks transition to a new life - after a divorce, retiring from a career, selling a business. It’s important to do your research and talk to people who care to help and think about your WHY.
Sometimes it feels when we are on social media that everyone has it all figured out but some of us went through a very tough period to get where we are today.
If you are going through a transition don't be shy and you can email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.